Connected v. Conditioned Values

Conditioned "Values" vs. Connected Values.
 
These are very distinct subsets of values.
 
And it's important to know the difference because our
values are what drive our behavior.
 
So if we just know our values, but aren't sure about
what type they are, we can end up living a "values"-led life that
doesn't actually align with what we're wanting.
 
To explain -
 
Conditioned "Values" have to do with what we believe we're meant to value. They don’t consider if the values are what we're really wanting. For example, I went around much of my life believing I valued "Responsibility" when the truth is...I was just conditioned to believe I should be that way. When I actually sit with that word in my body, it feels chaotic in there - my cells feel like their being tamed, like a wild horse being broken in, when I just want to revolt and do my own thing.
 
Connected Values are what sing to our soul. They are the ideals that in our heart of hearts, we fully embrace. They leak out of us without us even trying. For example, one of my connected values is Vibrancy. For me, this word is about living a rich, full life that embraces the ups and the downs and basks in the beauty of the complexity of being human. By defining this value to myself, I feel heard. I am more accepting of my emotions, and more willing to take risks that support the adventure that comes with living from vibrancy.
 
I share this all as an invitation.
 
To check in with your values - to determine the type, and to reconnect with the truth of who you are. Not what you believe you're supposed to be, but of what sings to your soul and sets all your cells vibrating in-sync.